TRAUMA BLOG POSTS
Why Logic, CBT, and Strategies Don’t Always Work When Trauma Lives in the Body
“I know it’s irrational. So why can’t I stop feeling this way?” I hear so many of my clients say this in exasperation. They’ve tried to change their thoughts and their beliefs, they’ve tried all the strategies, they’ve read lots of books, they’ve tried to stay...
Are you still hurting? Why the traditional approaches to mental health might not be enough
If you’ve spent years trying to understand and heal your pain, and you’re still hurting, you’re not alone. You’ve done what you were told would help: seen the doctors, taken the medication, changed your thinking, learned to cope—maybe even tried therapy. You might...
Why Mental Health Diagnoses Often Fail Trauma Survivors
Why Mental Health Diagnoses Often Fail Trauma Survivors When no one can agree on what’s “wrong” with you Have you got a list of diagnoses—or maybe a changing rotation depending on which professional you see? It’s not uncommon for me to see clients with a long list of...
When You’re Triggered: How to Ground, Soothe, and Come Back to Yourself
We often use the word triggered to describe moments when we feel suddenly and intensely overwhelmed — anxious, angry, scared, ashamed, or shut down — especially in response to something that doesn’t seem, on the surface, like it should cause such a strong reaction....
Feeling Too Much? It Might Be an Emotional Flashback
The word ‘triggered’ gets thrown around a lot. But what does it actually mean, and what’s really going on? Put simply, being triggered means you're having a strong emotional or physical reaction to something in the present that reminds your body of a past traumatic...
Why Do I Keep Ending Up in Relationships with People Who aren’t Good For Me?
Why do we keep ending up with people who hurt us, even though we swear we won’t fall for that ‘type’ again? Sometimes, the people we are attracted to aren’t just attractive because of who they are now. They of course must be attractive to us in the present, inside...
The Healing Place: A Visualisation Practice for When You Need Soothing
A gentle note before we begin: I’m going to share something a very dear colleague of mine – Dr Melissa Harte – invented – called Safe Place and Grounding. It’s a visualisation I use all the time in therapy, to support grounding, self-soothing and emotional safety....
Do You Have Really Intense Emotions? Here’s What’s Really Going On
Do you ever have overwhelming feelings or reactions that seem out of proportion to what’s actually happening in the moment? Maybe you feel so many emotions all at once it’s hard to know what you’re feeling, they are just all so intense it’s too much. Or someone might...
How EFT Helps You Heal Trauma by Fully Experiencing Your Emotions
In EFT (Emotion-Focused Therapy), we heal trauma by helping you fully experience the emotions of the original traumatic event. That probably sounds pretty daunting (and traumatic!). Let me explain. The reason this process isn’t actually as daunting as it sounds—and,...
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