Hey, well done, you’ve made it this far. I’m going to tell you about me, and what it will be like if you make an appointment with me, so maybe it might be a little bit less daunting to take the next step and fill out the enquiry form.

By the way – I tried to find a new psychologist for myself the other day – it was so hard – and I actually know what I am looking for! So I empathise with you, it’s a vulnerable process. Also, at least I could narrow down the therapy I was looking for -I know the ins and outs of all of them, which ones work for what, which ones are a waste of time all together.

Your experience with me

Gentle, is by far the most common personality characteristic people describe me with, calm is a close second -that hasn’t always been true! I was more like a duck swimming serenely on the surface of the water with its feet paddling madly beneath the water. Nowadays, I’m much more like a duck, above and below the water -if you catch my meaning, but that’s after a quite a bit of therapy (catch the subtle product placement there!)  Sessions are usually pretty laid back, often involve laughing, lounging or just making yourself comfortable (feet on chairs or jammies in video sessions is completely ok!)

Here are the things I think are really important in therapy

• My aim is to ‘get you’ as deeply as possible. I certainly don’t always get there, but I’m aways trying.
• If you say it, I believe it. No ifs, no buts. If it came out of your mouth, then I believe it. I don’t care what ‘his’, ‘her’ or ‘their’ perspective might be, or what your ‘mum’ or ‘dad’ might say if they were here. We’re not in court, we are not testing evidence. It’s your perspective and your reality that is paramount and my only concern.
• Judgement – as in my possible judgement of you – doesn’t really have any room in sessions. I’m in an open state when I’m doing therapy, judgement has no place to enter. Occasionally – hey, I’m human – a judgement might creep in to my mind, but I’ll note it and gently push it away for thinking about later. Because it obviously says something about ‘my’ internal issues and needs to be checked out later. Judgements about others are about me, not you.
• I care about my clients and I invest in your healing. You are not numbers to me.
• If you feel it, then it’s right. Your feelings are never wrong. They can be out of proportion, or under proportion, but they aren’t wrong. They have important information, so I’ll always suggest paying attention and seeing what they have to tell you.

I use Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT) which essentially means that I prioritise your emotional experience and your emotional processing as the most important part of psychological healing and wellbeing. Below are some of the experiences you may have in therapy. However, you’re always the boss! So if something is not your cup of tea, your therapy won’t involve that.

• Helping you reconnect with your emotions, or reconnect more with your emotions
• Become accepting of your emotions understand what they are telling you.
• Help you get in touch with what is painful, and how it affects you, and get in touch with other emotions that can help that pain.

EFT is experiential, which means instead of just talking about things that have happened, I will help you actively connect with, and process your emotions in the session. The approach often uncovers underlying issues that are not easily accessible through talking.

If any of that connects with you or piques your interest, go ahead and fill out the enquiry form below. There’s no obligation. Just tell me a bit about yourself and what is going on, I’ll send you some information about my services, including costs etc., and you can feel welcome to ask any questions you might have.