Ambivalent and avoidant attachment

Ambivalent and avoidant attachment

Attachment is a concept that is spoken about a lot. Formed in the earliest years of our lives, it goes on to impact us for a lifetime. Yet it is surprisingly difficult to find any reading material that goes beyond infants to how it impacts adults in relationships....
How Do I Work With Trauma?

How Do I Work With Trauma?

What is Trauma? In my practice, I use a broad definition of trauma, to include both Large ‘T’ and Small ‘t’ traumas. Large ‘T’ trauma is what most people think of when prompted by the word trauma; experiences like car accidents,...
What is emotional regulation?

What is emotional regulation?

Emotional regulation, emotional dysregulation…have you heard any of these terms? They are being used a lot in the world of psychology lately. But what do they really mean? I suspect there is a lot of confusion and misunderstanding. Emotional regulation IS NOT...
How to deal with an anxiety attack

How to deal with an anxiety attack

When you’re on you’re way to a full scale anxiety attack, it can feel impossible to turn it around. Trust me, I’ve been there. Even with all my knowledge as a psychologist it has been hard for me to cope when I’m having one. But I’ve...
What is a window of tolerance?

What is a window of tolerance?

The phrase window of tolerance is a bit of a buzz word in the psychology world at the moment. But what on earth does it mean? Our window of tolerance is the amount of distress we can handle (like anger, sadness, anxiety etc.) without feeling out of control (or the...
Highly Sensitive People

Highly Sensitive People

Highly sensitive people (HSPs) tend to function on the extremes of both ends of the scale – when things are hard they are really hard, but when things are feeling ok, they soar at whatever they put their minds to. Highly sensitive adults struggle with things a...